Last week I was talking with a Mum who was very worried about her teenager and her anger. This teen was 14 and would scream and rage when told to turn off screens or that she wasn't allowed to go out and see her friends. Her anger was scary - so much so that this Mum asked me "Does she has schizophrenia? Even teens who look like butter would not melt in their mouth while out in public, can get scarily angry at home.
Teen Anger: Signs, Symptoms and Management
What Parents Can Do to Help Teens Cope With Anger
Adolescence is a time of fast and sometimes messy development. Some teens experience their emotions as agitation and pessimism, even sometimes using hurtful language. It can be difficult when a well-meaning parent when they try to help their teen, only to be pushed away. Parents can become angry and frustrated, too. How do you figure out what your teen is trying to tell you? As a parent, you may need to determine in the moment whether you are responding in the way your teen needs or whether you are trying to relieve your own anxiety, anger, and fear. Your job is not to get stuck in there with them!
My teenage daughter has become angry, rude and distant
Teen anger takes many forms. It may be expressed as indignation and resentment, or rage and fury. It is the expression of teenage anger — the behavior — that we see. Some teens may repress their anger and withdraw; others may be more defiant and destroy property.
Teens often get frustrated through the course of the day or week. While teen anger is often normal and just part of growing up, sometimes it can indicate a larger problem which requires professional help. As teens grow and mature, they naturally want less parental input. This means that they are likely to rebuff your advice, sometimes in the form of a verbal outburst or a slammed door. If your teen seems annoyed at you when you offer advice or prefers to spend more time with peers than with family, this is completely normal and healthy.